Stop struggling: Trust your Diary

Are you struggling with a decision right now?  One week you think you should stay, the next you just want out – of the job, the friendship, the relationship.  And it’s been going on for a while now?

I have a fairly quick, simple method to help you decide.  Start a diary about this particular situation.  For a whole month, take a few minutes every day to document what has happened and how you feel, really feel deep down.  If you are unhappy, sad, fed up, disgusted write it down, and give examples of why you feel so.  The same way, if you are happy, write down why, with examples.

After a month, get yourself to a quiet place where you can review your entries of the month without being interrupted.  Read everything you have written.  Highlight in green everything that you saw as good and positive.  Highlight in red or another color everything that you saw as bad, negative or downright ugly about that situation.

Putting reality on paper prevents elective memory – that is usually just remembering the good and excusing either bad behaviour or forgetting how your needs are not met.  If you are really honest during your daily writings, this should give you a pretty good idea of the reality and help you make your decision.

Want to go one step further, share your writing with a trusted friend for support and accountability.

If you are ready to make difficult decisions in your life and want more support to stop struggling, call me during regular weekday business hours, at 613-744-1538, for a discovery session (free) to help you decide if you are ready to invest in a coaching relationship to change your life.

Have a great day

Marguerite

 

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